Three Things

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1. This  happened yesterday.

Our 11 year old got baptized in Jesus' name. Such rejoicing and joy! It was his choice alone.  He'd been asking to for quite some time. Just wanted to make sure he was at a place where he was ready and understood the choice he was making. My cousin called me yesterday afternoon and said her daughter saw my post about his baptism on Instagram and had quite a few questions about baptism and why he did it. When asked if she wanted to get baptized too, she said no, but then quickly changed her answer to yes. Amazing how one act of obedience can have a ripple effect like that. 

2. This quote.

"Some knowledge is too heavy...you cannot bear it...your Father will carry it until you are able.” 
― Corrie ten Boom, The Hiding Place

3. This blog post.

The Gospel of Genesis 13: 'It’s impossible for us to empty ourselves because we’re constantly so full of ourselves. None of us can give up everything. Before Christ, we are sinners — dead and full of utter need. But even after Christ has justified us, until he comes back to vanquish sin finally and fully, we still wrestle with our sin. We are sinner-saints. So some days we’re the Abram of Genesis 13 but most days we’re the Abram of Genesis 12."

currently: february 2015

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Reading: Two books at once: These Strange Ashes and Let Me Be a Woman by Elisabeth Elliot. I mentioned in my last post how influential her teaching has been in my life and revisiting her work has been refreshing for my soul. I’m especially loving Let Me Be a Woman. It’s a book of “letters” she wrote to her daughter as a wedding gift full of insight and wisdom about womanhood, marriage and home life.

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Watching: Tons and tons of HGTV. Since I’m a cord cutter, I haven’t been able to watch HGTV except old episodes on Netflix. I recently signed up for a 7-day free trial for Sling TV which is now on Roku that includes the cable channel HGTV among other things. The boys love Disney and Cartoon Network, so I decided to keep it. At $20, it wasn’t’ too much and that brings the total TV bill to $36.That’s manageable compared to the $100+ cable bill we used to have.

Listening to: All of the United Pursuit albums. I even created a playlist because the worship is just so sweet to me. My favorite is: Live at the Banks House by Will Reagan and United Pursuit. I just downloaded Virtue’s new album Testimony Reloaded which is playing as I’m typing.  And just pre-ordered Tyrone Wells’ new album Roll With It. Four songs came with the pre-order so I’m pretty much in heaven.

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Loving: my Kate Spade planner. It fits in my purse and keeps me from being a crazy lady (most of the time).

Enjoying: The Thru the Bible podcast by Dr. J. Vernon McGee. I’m listening to his through the Bible in five year lessons. He’s now on the book of James. Growing up, my mother used to listen to him religiously. As a kid, I always found his voice comforting during car rides with my mother. Now that I’m grown, I see why she always listened. He has such knowledge about the Word.

Shopping: at the Goodwill. Since that middle child of mine likes to wears holes in the knees of perfectly good jeans, I decided jeans from the Goodwill would suffice for his play pants. Little did I know the treasures there. I used to thrift years ago. It looks like the flame has been re-ignited. I’ve found some cute dresses, some brand new items for me and baby girl as well as two pair of almost new Levi’s for her. I stop in regularly now and it might be a borderline addiction. The items below were all $2 each. Can't be that.

What's new in your world?

goodwill haul

How a Little Loss Taught Us a Big Lesson

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Our family suffered a loss this weekend.

Gubbles the family fish passed away. 

Things started going downhill when he was sent to my mother-in-law's house for a week while we went to the Bay Area for a family visit during the Christmas break. He wasn't his normal self when he returned. And weeks later, he got worse.  This weekend, the downhill trend continued with erratic behavior: him diving to the bottom of the fish bowl and then swimming furiously to the top until he finally just stopped swimming. 

My oldest son won him as a prize at summer camp almost two years ago. I was so against the idea of a fish. But he stepped up and took great care of him. He fed him on schedule and cleaned his bowl regularly. I was impressed.

My son had grown attached to the fish, almost like he was the family puppy. So when he started declining he took it hard.....even broke down at church two weekends ago while requesting prayer for the fish. Sounds crazy, I know, but that's how attached he was. Even family members urged me to buy a new fish to swap out for Gubbles. But there was no way I was going to do that. And if I did, how many times would I have to do it so he would't have to face loss?

My son is 11 and that's old enough to know that loss happens. It's a part of the cycle of life. 

Sure, I wanted to protect him from the pain, but it is inevitable. And protecting him from the pain of life is not my job as a parent--preparing him for it is.

So we talked about the average life span of a fish, which is two years maximum. We discussed how he'd taken great care of the fish and grew into a responsible pet owner. We talked about losing something (or someone) we have become attached to while holding on to the memories. We talked about what it would look like when the fish did eventually die.

When it happened, he was prepared. Heartbroken, but prepared. As a parent, I want to protect my kids from so many things: the mean kid who speaks the truth with harsh words, being chosen last for a game or broken hearts from love that isn't returned. But I know doing that will only handicap them. Of course, there are things I absolutely want to protect them from: pornography, child predators, drug use. The key is knowing where to draw the line.

The older they get, the more of life my little ones are exposed to and it's downright scary as a parent. But what would be even scarier is sending them out into the world without being equipped to handle the hard edges that are part of living in this world.

My prayer lately has been for wisdom to guide them and equip them with knowledge and the sense enough to back up when I need to. This parenting gig is a constant balance of holding close when necessary and letting go when it's time.

currently: january 2015

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Loving: the photo of the boys from five years ago that my cousin texted me the other day. Hard to imagine life with just two kids now that there are three. Seems like just yesterday they were that small. Working hard to cherish the days with them now because soon they'll be grown and gone.

Watching: Lots of Netflix lately. Enjoyed an indie film over the weekend called Like Father, Like Son. It's the story of switched births and lessons learned. Good, good stuff! I also recently watched Room 335 on Netflix. It's a documentary by Andrew Jenks who moved into a senior living home when he was 19 and what unfolded was unexpected by him and his crew. Heartwarming! I loved it.

Looking forward to: another trip to the library. My aim has been to trim my book budget by checking out books at the library. Checked out books for the kids. But after my current read (which is from my personal collection) I'll be heading back to check out some books for myself.

Enjoying: Real Simple magazine's Women in Real Life campaign on Instagram. In a world of perfectly posed photos, it's nice to see real life stuff on Instagram. And I can relate to so many of the posts that feature life in all its messy glory. Check out the photos here.

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Reading: Schulz and Peanuts. After our trip to the Charles M. Schulz museum over the Christmas break, I became more interested in the man behind the comic strip. I've had this book for years and even got through two chapters. But life (or another book got in the way). Picked it back up and am enjoying it again.

Thinking about: hiring a private investigator to track down our former housekeeper. Her number is disconnected, I can't remember where her house is and the number she had for us in no longer in service. *sigh* I really need her now. I've prayed to Jesus for her to find me or vice versa. She was a gem! Will keep you all posted on the answer to this prayer.

Listening to: Lots of worship music lately: Will Reagan's Set A Fire, Jaye Thomas' Here Is My Worship,  and I put Andrae Crouch back in the mix after his death last week. So much of my childhood and spiritual walk was built on his music.

What's current with you?

Happiness Is A Road Trip...

Nothing like getting out of the city to make you appreciate the beauty of California. #roadtrippin

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Well, a road trip with three kids is not actually happiness, but a change of venue is. Right after Christmas, we packed the kids up and made the six-hour drive from Southern California to Northern California to visit my mother and family.

The kids actually did great thanks to lengthy naps and the in-car DVD player. Lifesaver! The clear Northern California air and seeing my mother and cousins did my heart good. Nothing like belly laughs and hugs with people you love the most. I even got a chance to hook up with my bestest friend in the world who was visiting her family from the East Coast. 

My mother had some quality time with the kids while I took a quick drive to Berkeley to visit Body Time. I love everything about this little shop and have been wearing their signature fragrance China Rain since I was a teen. I picked up the Body Moisturizer, Olive Oil Soap, the Oatmeal Complexion Bar and some shaving soaps for my husband. They were out of the Sweet Almond Oil which is another favorite of mine.  

No trip to the Bay Area is complete without a trip to @bodytime1970 in Berkeley. #smellgoods

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Body Time was followed by at stop at Daiso for some $1.50 goodies and lunch at Smart Alecs on Telegraph Avenue and it was indeed a delicious alternative to fast food. On the way to the car, a cute little jewelry store caught my eye. My sister, cousin and I ended up spending way more time and money in there than we intended. 

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The highlight of the trip was our visit to the Charles M. Schulz Museum in Santa Rosa is we are all big fans of the Peanuts. My cousin joined us and brought his three kids. We started with lunch at the Warm Puppy Cafe which overlooks the ice skating rink (Charles Schulz's table at the cafe remains reserved until this day).

An entire wall of Peanuts cartoon strips. The kids are in Charlie Brown heaven. Field trip success!

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The kids had a ball at the museum. I wanted to read every single word in every single exhibit but with all the kids in tow, this wasn't possible. Next time though! I loved the replica of Shulz's office and the nursery wall her painted for one of his children which was transported from one of his early homes. The kids loved the Charlie Brown Christmas tree in the museum foyer and the outside maze in the shape of Snoopy's head. 

As I type this, it's back to work and school tomorrow, but our little getaway was just what the kids needed.

currently: december 2014

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Loving: the fact that this little guy is back on track after having his adenoids and tonsils removed right before Thanksgiving. The surgeon said they were humongous. Glad it's taken care of and it's over. We had a few rough days where the pain was bad, but he was a trooper indeed.

Reading: Catching up on Kim Cash Tate's blog. Her latest post #BlackStoriesMatter applies to more than just writing. My story matters. Your story matters.

Planning: a road trip up the Bay Area after Christmas to visit my mom and family. A visit to the Charles M. Schulz Museum is on our list. We go hard for The Peanuts in this household.

Thinking about: Christmas shopping. Items bought so far: 1. *sigh*

Looking forward to: Christmas break. Two glorious weeks of vacation!

Listening to: Lots of iTunes radio lately. I've ditched Pandora since iTunes offers 6 skips an hour.

Watching: Actually, just finished watching The Red Tent on Lifetime. Good TV still exists. Based on the book, the story is inspired by Dinah, a character in the Bible. People were up in arms that it didn't follow the Bible, but it's inspired by the story not a retelling of the story.

What's up with you? I'd love to hear.

NaBloPoMo: It Is Finished

The final day of National Blog Posting Month is done. I'm doing a happy dance. Blogging every day is hard and takes forethought and planning. 

Good thing is I've not got a bunch of half finished drafts of blog posts still waiting to be finished thanks to my perfectionist ways. Seems I've discovered that if I can't get thoughts out perfectly, then I just abandoned the post. Hopefully, they'll see the light of day soon.

Thanks for reading this month!

 

 

From Gratitude to Greed

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The news stories on the Black Friday have been breaking my heart. A local news story reported two women fighting over a Barbie in Walmart. In another Walmart, there was a fight over a TV.  Even Gawker ran a story about the best Black Friday fights of 2014

What is in the heart of people that makes them go from saying grace and giving gratitude over Thanksgiving dinner to grabbing merchandise off of store shelves? It's greed. And left to our own devices, greed will grow like a wild weed in our lives.

For it is from within, out of a person’s heart, that evil thoughts come—sexual immorality, theft, murder, adultery, greed, malice, deceit, lewdness, envy, slander, arrogance and folly. All these evils come from inside and defile a person.” Mark 7:21-2 (NIV)

Ahab, a king of Israel, is a perfect example of greed run amuck. Ahab had just about everything character. And he had wife who was even worse than he was. He was very rich. He had one entire palace inlaid with ivory. And he had another palace in Jezreel. One day as he looked out the window of his Jezreel palace he saw a vineyard that he thought would make a nice vegetable garden for himself. The only problem was it belonged to someone else, a man named Naboth.

"Ahab said to Naboth, 'Let me have your vineyard to use for a vegetable garden, since it is close to my palace. In exchange I will give you a better vineyard or, if you prefer, I will pay you whatever it is worth" (1 Kings 21:2-3).

Naboth refused to sell because he was obedient to what God told him to do with the land. When Israel first took possession of the land, every family received their plot of ground. The land could never be permanently sold and was to remain in that family's possession forever. But instead of respecting Naboth's reasons for not selling, Ahad threw a fit.

"Ahab went home, sullen and angry because Naboth the Jezreelite had said, 'I will not give you the inheritance of my fathers' He lay on his bed sulking and refused to eat" (1 Kings 21:4).

Instead of focusing on everything he had, he wanted the one thing he didn't have. So his wife set out to make sure her husband's wants were satisfied. Jezebel came up with a plot to have Naboth murdered. And because she was queen, the plan went off without a hitch.

"When Ahab heard that Naboth was dead, he got up and went down to take possession of Naboth's vineyard" (1 Kings 21:16).

Rampant greed led to the murder of an innocent man and the confiscation of his property. But God saw it. Elijah the prophet met Ahab when he went to take possession of Naboth's vineyard, and he pronounced God's punishment upon Ahab for what he and Jezebel had done. His grim prophecy predicted that dogs would lick up the couple's blood and that God would wipe out their descendants from the face of the earth—the worst imaginable curse for an Israelite. God already had a great deal against Ahab and Jezebel, but their greed-inspired brutality against Naboth was the last straw.

Left unchecked, greed will drive us to do crazy and even wicked things. I'm sure those people who went out shopping didn't expect to be fighting over TV and Barbies for heaven's sake. Contentment helps to keep our hearts in check. 

Every day, we have to keep our desires gated up lest we fall victim to greed. It's a continual challenge to change greed to gratitude.

But godliness with contentment is great gain.

On the Mend

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It's been six days since kid number 2 had his tonsils and adenoids removed. It's been more of a rocky recovery than I'd anticipated. He woke up in the middle of the night a day ago in pain. And this morning it was just rough. Nothing but tears at the breakfast table until his pain medication kicked in. 

Worst thing in the world is seeing your child in pain. Despite the pain, he's been a champ and is bummed that Thanksgiving is tomorrow and he's not fully recovered. 

The other day his class sent him a get well card that every one signed. His teacher really is a gem for mailing it. And his teacher from last year also sent a card. I so appreciate his teachers. Their involvement in the kids' lives is one of the many reasons that we are making the sacrifice to send the kids to a private school.  

Thankful for great teachers and a kid who is gradually on the mend.