Makes Me Happy Monday (number 5)

It's Monday. Time to work it!!

Just discovered that Starbucks has a secret menu. It's on now. The Nutella looks yummy. (In fact, there's a whole website dedicated to all things secret about Starbucks.)

Been following the blog of Sarah Danaher, a D.C.-based photographer for a few years now. She gets married this week and shared her engagement story a while back. I laughed, rejoiced with her and was close to tears. Such a sweet and God-honoring post. 

Someone learned how to give the side eye. The teenage years are gonna be a blast.

Need a visual of true love? This couple has been married for 50 years and shows its. Click the link here if the video doesn't appear below

A Little Housekeeping...

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For the Days When You Need A Do Over...

Ever wish you could push ctrl + alt + del on your life?

This week started off with one of those mornings where I wish I could have a do-over.

I yelled at the boys. 

We were running late. 

Then we get to the 5 year old's doctor appointment and they forgot about us. 

By the time I'd dropped kid #3 off, I felt like a disheveled mess and the only thing I wanted to do was crawl back into bed.  On my way out of the nursery after dropping the baby off, I ran into a co-worker who wanted to chat. 

*Sigh* 

I plastered on a smile. 

 "You look great. I love those colors on you," she beamed.

I looked down at myself and realized I hadn't even looked in the full-length mirror before leaving. But I guess I'd managed to pull together something worthy of a compliment. 

We caught up for a few moments as she asked about the kids. As we parted, she said, "You always have it together."

That's when I almost wept. 

I wanted to scream, "No, I don't have it all together." 

Instead, I just politely smiled and told her I don't, but I appreciated her comment. 

"No," she insisted. "You really do always have it all together." 

She didn't know the havoc that went on that morning.

That the house was a mess. 

Laundry was left in piles to be folded. 

I yelled at the boys. 

Dirty dishes were piled in the sink. 

I had no idea what was for dinner that night. 

I'd picked out the outfit I had on from a pile of clean clothes at the foot of my bed that I didn't get a chance to hang up.

And the list goes on and on... 

At the moment, I felt like a failure because I knew that what she said about me didn't match up with my reality.

As I made my way to the office, I whispered to myself and maybe more so to God, "I'm so grateful that I don't look like what I've been through."

That's grace. 

Going through the fire and not smelling like smoke. 

Going through the water and coming out dry. 

The last few years have been hard. Some heartbreaking. One day I will share my whole story. I'm a private person by nature so sharing my every day trials is not something that comes naturally. But I'm just so thankful that the hard years haven't broken me and made me look worse for the wear. 

There are many like that...who wear what they've been through on their faces. It sits on their shoulders like an ill-fitting winter coat two tims too big.

Thank God that He takes our burdens and carries them for us. 

"Through the Lord’s mercies we are not consumed, Because His compassions fail not. They are new every morning; Great is Your faithfulness." Lamentations 3:22-23 (NKJV)

Makes Me Happy Monday (number 4)

It's Monday. Rise and shine!

A few links to share that Made Me Smile

Knowing When It's Time To Surrender the Vision: Sometimes God delivers an on-time word. This article was mine this week "But I’m here to tell you that the answer is not to quit and give up. The answer is to surrender."

How To Talk to Little Girls: As a new mom to a daughter, I found this read very insightful.  And it's actually great advice for anyone dealing with little girls: "engage them about something other than their physical appearance."

Stumbled upon this site called Advanced Style where the blogger takes pics of stylish older people he crosses paths with in the streets. So fun to view. 

Instagram and Self-esteem: interesting read over at Slate. 

Lessons Learned from an 80 Year Old

This weekend I joined the boys for a trip to Sky Zone. It's one of their favorite places. The biggest boy had the most fun. Brought such a smile to my face. Click this link to see the video if it doesn't appear below.

Loose Ends....

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10 Things I Want My Black Boys To Know

As a mom to two little black boys, I face a dilemma moms raising other races will not likely deal with: the realization that no matter how bright and educated my sons grow up to be, some members of society will always see them as a threat. Scary and sad, especially in light of the Trayvon Martin incident.

I'm always aware that I can't help them learn how to walk through this world as a black man...that's something their father and other black men will have to school them on. I hear black women say they can raise black boys into men better than a man. I dare to disagree, but that's a whole 'nother talk show. Lately, I've been finding myself trying to make my boys conscious of the fact that they always need to be aware of their surroundings. As black boys, they will have to develop a sixth sense that many other races don't have to.

While I can't entirely help them navigate the ins and outs of being a man, I can teach them how to be gentlemen. As a mother I do have influence and there are other ways I can shape them.

Here are 10 things I want my boys to learn as they walk through life:

1. Get wisdom! And use it. "Getting wisdom is the wisest thing you can do! And whatever else you do, develop good judgment."  Proverbs 4:7 (NLT)

2. Avoid adulteress women who flatter and lead to destruction. I want them to learn the difference between an upright woman and loose women who as the Bible says: "have been the ruin of many; Her house is the road to the grave. Her bedroom is the den of death." Sex without strings always has strings attached.

3. Be a gentleman...always. Open doors, offer your seat, pull out chairs, walk curbside. And for the women who adamantly shun such offers, be a gentleman and respect that as well. But at least offer. 

4. Learn to drive a stick shift. You never know when the moment will arise when you will need to. 

5. Watch what you watch. What you entertain with your eyes will continue to play in your head and your heart will follow. 

6. Keep your word. Be honest. No one likes a liar. 

7. Women will judge you by your confidence, shoes and cleanliness. That's just the way the world works. So make sure they are all on point. 

8. Swag is nice, but success is better. My husband always says he doesn't care if the boys are nerds because it's usually the nerdy ones who make it to the top. 

9. You will have to learn to navigate two worlds: a black world and the mainstream world. The earlier you learn this the better.

10. Finding a good wife leads to a double bonus for you (treasure AND favor from God)--so choose wisely. And once you get her, don't you let her go. "The man who finds a wife finds a treasure, and he receives favor from the Lord." Proverbs 18:22 (NLT) 

If you're mother to a black boy, what would you add to the list? 

The Simple Secret To Changing Your Perspective

“I can see how it might be possible for a man to look down upon the earth and be an atheist, but I cannot conceive how he could look up into the heavens and say there is no God.”  ~ Abraham Lincoln

Lately I've developed an ugly habit: looking down all the time. I mean literally looking down when I walk. Half the battle is having noticed it, now I"m working on stopping it. 

It didn't used to always be this way. 

My childhood including lots of time gazing upward. Summers as a child equalled lots of outside time. Riding bikes. Exploring the city. Getting wet in the sprinklers and lying on the grass looking up at the sky. Watching birds take flight. Planes in the distance and pointing out shapes in formless clouds. The sky used to be my friend. The place where dreams where born and where daydreams lived.

The other day I got stuck in LA traffic. An accident slowed down my normally free-flowing commute. While trying to remain patient I just happened to catch a glimpse up at the blue Southern California sky. Oh what a sight to behold. Immediately something happened. My heart got a little light. The tension eased up. My perspective change by simply looking up. Then I realized I haven't done that in ages: look up. It was refreshing.

A summery Southern California sky.

Most of my time is spent looking around me at my circumstances, at what is in front of me, at what is troubliing me.  Evangelist Billy Graham once said:  “Believers, look up -- take courage. The angels are nearer than you think.” I'm sure the angels circle me and wonder why in the world I waste my time looking down when my perspective could so easily change just by looking up.

Jesus healed a blind man in Mark 8:  "Then He put His hands on his eyes again and made him look up. And he was restored and saw everyone clearly." (Mark 8:25) The man had been touched once but his vision was blurry. After being urged to look up, not only did his vision come back but "he was restored" and saw clearly.

Praise break right there! 

Looking up clears up our vision and restores our whole being.

Let that sink in. It's so easy to get bogged down by looking at what's going on around us, but even easier to simply look up. 

So I'm dedicating myself to looking up. Hard work for a neck that's has a natural bent toward the ground. And I'm encouraging my soul, my prayers..my whole being to look up as well.

"My voice You shall hear in the morning, O Lord; In the morning I will direct it to You, And I will look  up." Psalm 5:3

Makes Me Happy Monday (number 3)

"The way I see it, you should live everyday like its your birthday." ~Paris Hilton

It's my birthday week! WooHoo. Thursday is my big day! My gift to myself might just be a long, uninterrupted nap.

A few links to share that Made Me Smile

This Teacher Wore The Same Exact Outfit In His Yearbook Photo Every Year For 40 Years

Remember someone is always watching and listening by Sally Clarkson: such a great reminder that we can talk all we want but it's really what our lives are saying that matter the most. Children most certainly learn what they live and see.

Even the smallest detail by Genna Heikka: "But God cares about the little things too. He cares about the details, and he doesn’t want us to hold back from talking to Him just because we think our requests aren’t important enough, or because we might feel selfish for asking."

So You Want A "Boaz", But You Act Like Jezebel by Nehemiah Robinson...ummm yeah...

This is why it's always handy to have chalk with you. Going to buy some chalk immediately. 

I don't get a chance to see many commericals since we have Roku, but this one sent to me by a cousin made me chuckle. Such a genius idea by Evian Water. 

Loose Ends....

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I Have A Confession...

...I'm a serious book piler. I have every intention of reading all the books I have before stacking another book on top. But then I see another book I must have and it gets added to the pile.

Right now life is hectic and hurried....and leaves no time for my greatest pastime: having my nose stuck in a book. I'm hoping that will change soon before the pile is stacked too high.

Here's what's currently on my nightstand. I'd love to hear what's on your reading list.

Buckling Up For A Fantastic 3rd Ride

It's been an amazing and exhausting first year with baby number 3. I blinked and she's a year old today. I clearly remember labor with her. Very hard. But very much worth it. So looking forward to what the rest of our lives is like with her. 

Below is a video of her fabulous first year. 

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What To Do When You Don't Know What To Do

Ever been between a rock and a hard place?  Not an easy place to be.

You need the money and you need it now. 

You need answers on what to do about a decision and the deadline is looming.

The disease has spread and the medicine is not working. 

Bottom line: your back is against a wall. 

We live in a world that is in constant motion. Just slowing down on a busy street in your car to find an address will make you upset commuters (at least that's the way it is here in California). Today's society is all about make a decision and make a move.

Sometimes life isn't that clear cut and there is no place to move. Sometimes the only route out is looking up.

This is the place where the children of Israel found themselves at they sat trapped on the beaches of the Red Sea with an army of 600 of Pharaoh's chariots chasing them. They were hemmed in by mountainous terrain with no route of escape. In front of them was a sea that (at its widest point) was 220 miles across to dry land. Talk about being between a rock and a hard place.

But Exodus 14:13 lets up know this: "And Moses said to the people, “Do not be afraid. Stand still, and see the salvation of the Lord, which He will accomplish for you today."

A while back I got stuck in this verse; specifically on the words: Stand Still.

Stand still. Seems like a crazy command when you have an angry army on your heels. Standing sounds passive. Yet it's anything but! The Hebrew definition of the word stand means to station something, to continue, remaining. RemainING. 

Adding the suffix "ing" to any word means there is a continuing action. 

We think of standing as waiting. Standing in line..waiting to be next. Standing around wasting time. Standing doing nothing.

Add to that the Hebrew meaning for still : to pull up tent pins, to start on a journey, to blow, make to go forward, march. Here standing still means to get to moving. How is that? 

Then I had a personal light bulb moment. We stand still in trying to figure out our "rock and hard place" moments but we continue moving forward in faith that God will bring relief for us.  Stand still in our own efforts but move forward in faith.

There are times when we have to stop spinning our wheels and do like The Message version of the Bible says:

"Don’t be afraid.

Stand firm

and watch God do his work of salvation for you today.

Take a good look at the Egyptians today for you’re never going to see them again."

That's a lot of action going on for the children of Israel who were commanded to stand still. As they stood still (remember one of the definitions for still is blow). Verse 21 says "Then Moses stretched out his hand over the sea and God, with a terrific east wind all night long, made the sea go back. He made the sea dry ground. The seawaters split." God blew those waters back as they were STANDING STILL.

You may be standing at the edge of your own Red Sea today. I know I am. Hemmed in by mountains on one side. A sea before you and enemies hot on your heels. Might God be telling you to stand still as well? 

Stand still and take your hands off of whatever you are trying to fix and build up.  Stand still from plotting and planning. Stand still and stop trying to figure it all out on your own. Then take a good look whatever is acting as an enemy in your life today for you’re never going to see them again. Surrender and stand still but keep moving forward in your faith!